Every office has one. A grouch. A pain in the neck. Whatever you want to call it.
You will now be privy to what I would like to say to my coworker, but wouldn't dare.
Ever heard the phrase, "It's not what you do, but how you do it?" Yes, we know how much you do here in this office, and we appreciate it, but we don't need you on top of the rest of us all the time. We have our work, and you have yours, so if we're sitting around chatting, it means that we're finished what we have to do, even if you haven't.
How come it is that if you make a mistake, you're human, humans make mistakes, and it's okay, but if it's someone else's mistake, it's the biggest deal in the world?! Are we not human?
Yes, I understand your life is hard, but sometimes, so is ours! We don't come in screaming at everyone when life is tough at home. We leave our baggage at the door and pick it up again on the way out.
With all your seniority, etc., you still have a good number of years left to live. Please, make them pleasant ones, for yourself, and for us.
Thanx for listening. I feel a lot better now.
14 years ago
2 comments:
You are so right. I believe very strongly in keeping your problems for at home and when at work, to do it without airing all your dirty laundry.
Just one side note, I had a very difficult co-worker at one point and she really tested my patience (and tongue) many times. But then I thought about it and I realized that I can't expect my life to be perfect and all the people around me to be perfect. I decided to look at this co-worker as an opportunity to work on my middos and practice tolerance and once I came to that conclusion, dealing with it was so much easier. Instead of getting frustrated at her, I would be silently patting myself on my back for holding back a sharp retort or annoying look or even complaining to my boss (which my other co-workers did do and she eventually got fired). I'm not trying to sound holier-than-thou because I'm really not, just giving you another way to look at it.
Good luck! I really know how tough it can be....
HS, getting her fired is not an option, as she's been there a really long time. I don't say anything to her about this. In the beginning, I would ask my boss to help me deal with this, but at this point, there's no point in doing that anymore. She knows there's a problem, but basically has her hands tied. The most I'll do is ignore her if I feel that I can't handle what she'll respond. I actually haven't spoken more than two words to her in a day and a half.
Thanks for the chizuk! I'll keep you posted if anything dramatic happens.
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