There's a phenomenon that's unfortunately become much more common recently in the frum world. Broken engagements.
How many girls do I know that got engaged, only to break it shortly after, and some, right before the wedding?
Why is this happening?
I have a theory. Feel free to disagree.
I think that girls are scared to say no. If they say no to this one, who's to say there will be another one after this? Look at all the older singles! We're in middle of a major Shidduch CRISIS. Maybe, if we take away the pressure, girls can relax and feel secure that he will come at the right time.
14 years ago
2 comments:
Interesting.
I think it's also cuz people jump in too fast. Let alone take off some pressure of saying no--just take your time! Feel it out. Take as long as you need to feel comfortable...
At least that's my opinion
i think it is more individualized that you are making it out to be. there are many people who i have met who don't think for themselves, who are afraid to voice their OWN opinion and therefore are bullied into making the decision without really wanting to yet.
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