There was a letter in this week's Yated that got me thinking. The letterwriter commented how shocked she was that, in a previous letter, someone mentioned "worldly" in a list of good attributes of a good boy. According to this lady, "wordly" is a terrible thing for a boy to be, as it means that he does not always have his head in a gemara, and that he is no longer an "innocent" Yeshiva Bochur.
In my opinion, there are no ma'alos or chesronos in shidduchim. Every person is looking for someone whom they admire and would like to spend the rest of their lives with. What is good for one person can be terrible for the next.
There's nothing wrong with that. If we were all the same, the world would be very boring.
14 years ago
2 comments:
My initial reaction was that it was written by some guy trying to stir up a bit of controversy.
And you're 100% right. What is a mayla for one person, can be a chisaron for the next.
I took that letter with a grain of salt, as I do a lot of the other ones.
I couldn't agree more. If your (IY"H future) chosson has been out with other girls before you, it's an obvious sign of this. Simple as that...
I'm very distressed btw. I have been away
The past two shabbosim and didn't cach the yated. Were there letters about the smoking thing?
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